I discovered several basic truths about communication and I will share with you two.
“But let your statement be ‘Yes, yes or ‘No, no’.” – Mathew 5:37
When I read this long ago, I took it to heart and do my best to stick to it. In addition, when I do say “Yes” to a committment, I do my best to fulfill it. People may not like it when I say “No,” however, they will appreciate my follow through when I do agree.
I think back to a time when I worked in the semiconductor industry. I remember a director who reported into the same vice president I did. It was my first experience with a “Yes man.” Our VP would ask him can it be done and his proverbial answer was “Yes.” However, each week when we presented our metrics, the lofty goals were often not met. I used to get so frustrated and decided I would not follow suit. If I knew my team could complete the assignment, I would sign up for the task. If we could not, I simply would say we cannot do “X,” but we can do “Y.” As a result, my superiors respected my results and appreciated our contribution.
If you find yourself overcommitted, I urge you to take a look at what your to do list is and ask yourself do I really need to do all of this? If the answer is “No,” then reprioritize and communicate your intentions to others. Like me, you may experience less stress and increased satisfaction for a job well done.
You shall not steal, deal falsely, nor lie to one another. – Leviticus 19:11
Do not lie is found in the 10 Commandments that were handed down to the Israelites by their leader Moses. He met with God on the top of Mt. Sinai and was given laws to live by which were incorporated into Judaism and Christianity.
I strive to tell the truth; even though sometimes it hurts or is humbling. Admittedly, it is not always the easiest course of action. It is sometimes easier to tell a little white lie. However, it’s been my experience that if I lie, I often have to cover it up with more lies. It’s exhausting trying to remember what I told different people. So for this gal, honesty is the best policy, and I think people appreciate it.
If you find yourself caught in a web of lies, I would encourage you to untangle it by simply telling the truth. Like me, you may experience freedom in your communication and relations.
These are just two of the many biblical ways to communicate with your circle of influence. Best wishes with your marriage and family.
I’d love to hear what communication techniques you’ve found successful. Please feel free to share with us!