Recently, I was reading Change Agent by Os Hillman where he cites divorce statistics. Sadly, approximately 45-50% of first marriages, 60-67% of second marriages, and 70-73% third marriages fail. That’s a lot of heartbreak!
Then, I thought, What does the Bible say about marriage? I discovered a lot, but wanted to share two ideas I believe could help many marriages be healthier.
Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He Himself
being the Savior of the body. But as the church
is subject to Christ, so also wives ought to be in everything. – Ephesians 5:22-24
- Wives submit to their husbands. In today’s culture, submit is a taboo word. Due most in part by people who have abused their God given authority. However, the definition of submit is simply to accept or yield to the authority or will of another person; namely your spouse. I’ll be the first to admit it’s not easy as I am a very strong and independent woman. However, I find when I do, there is less strife in our marriage.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and
gave Himself up for her; that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her
by the washing of water with the word, that He might present Himself
to the church in all her glory, having no spot of wrinkle or any such thing;
but that she should be holy and blameless. So, husbands ought also to
love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife,
loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes it and
cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because
we are members of His body. – Ephesians 5:25-30
2. Husbands love your wives. Again, it today’s culture, men are taught to be strong, self-sufficient and stuff your emotions. Yet, one definition of love is a person or thing that one loves; beloved, dearest. Perhaps marriages would be happier if husbands (and wives) loved their spouses unconditionally. To further define characteristics of love, here’s what the Bible lists.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.
It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Wow, imagine if all marriages were filled with this selfless love! Maybe, just maybe, the divorce rate would diminish significantly or be eliminated entirely.
For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife;
and the two shall become one flesh. – Ephesians 5:31
Do you have any marriage insight you’d like to share with us? If so, I’d love to hear it!