This week I researched some top issues facing marriages today. One that caught my eye was #5 on the Family Share site. They state:
5. Career decisions
Another big trial in the marriage relationship has to do with bread-winning. If you both have careers, the challenge will be the perception of whose job is more important. If just one of you has a job, the one who stays at home will need to find some other means of fulfillment. Jobs sometimes require relocation, which can put stress on the relationship and disrupt children’s lives. Every career decision must be approached with care and consideration, including taking into account the wants and needs of every family member.
I’ve found this true in our marriage, because early on we decided to have one parent stay home with our two children. Randy was a commercial plumber and I was a manager in Silicon Valley. We made the difficult decision he would be our stay-at-home dad. At the time, it was non-traditional. He stayed home with our son and daughter for thirteen years. Just last year, he returned to the work force. He is a landscaper for a Christian Conference Center and loves his new role. After I left the manufacturing industry a few years ago, I taught for a private preschool until free public transitional kindergarten was implemented. About five weeks ago, I started working in the Facilities Department of a Christian Conference Center and I too love my new role.
Although career choices can be a challenge in a marriage, I believe it can also be rewarding if you both agree with the changes. Fortunately, for us we are excited for each other’s new season in life. My hope and prayer is peace as you make a difficult decision regarding your career shift.
Are you changing your vocation? If so, please share with us.