Loving Your Spouse Book Review

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When I was approached by Gary Chapman’s publicist about reviewing Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away, I was excited. I enjoyed reading his book The 5 Love Languages. Also, I had the honor to contribute a story in his book Love is a Verb

Dr. Chapman is the Director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants and shares his advice based on his 35+ years of experience counseling couples.

One simple tool I took away from reading his new book is looking at how my own thoughts, feelings, and actions impact my husband.

I highly recommend reading Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away.

Blessings, Rebecca

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About the Author

Gary Chapman-author, speaker and counselor-has a passion for helping people form lasting relationships. He travels the world presenting seminars, and his radio program airs on more than 400 stations.

For more information visit 5lovelanguages.com

About the Book

If you are struggling in a painfully difficult marriage, you’re not alone, and the story doesn’t have to end there. Gary Chapman will teach you how to:

  • Recognize and reject myths that hold you captive
  • Better understand your spouse’s behavior
  • Take responsibilty for your own thoughts, feelings, and actions
  • Make choices that can have a lasting, positive impact on you and your spouse

Disclosure: No compensation was received for this book review. Just passing along a good read.

Have you found a goood book about enjoying a healthy marriage?

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Spring Break 2018

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“Where are we going for Spring Break Mom,” my daughter asked.

“Well, honey your dad and I have to work this week, but we can ask our bosses for a day off.” Thankfully, they granted our requests.

So, all four of us tossed around ideas for a day trip within 150 miles from where we live. In the end, we chose the Oakland Zoo.

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It was our first time. My husband packed a wheelchair in the trunk of our car, because our son is healing from a fractured foot and the east foothills would prove to be too much.

We had fun exploring all the animals and learning about their habitats.

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The zoo recently added a gondola that took us up to the new café and lookout. The view of the city was stunning. We could see the port of Oakland as well as the skyline of San Francisco.

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We were blessed with minimal traffic to and from, no lines at the park and perfect weather. The next day, we had a big spring storm dumping four inches of rain in Santa Cruz mountains.

My son asked me what my favorite animal was and I couldn’t quite put my finger on it as I enjoyed them all. I am amazed at the variety of species God has created for us to enjoy.

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Are you on Spring Break and, if so, what did you do?

Blessings, Rebecca

Easter Sunday

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For the past 19 years, we have traditionally attended our home church Easter Sunday service. It is filled with the lights of the sanctuary, sound of 3,500 members singing and a wonderful sermon.

This year, we elected to try something new. I work for Mt Hermon Christian Conference Center and they celebrate Easter by hiking to a twelve foot wood cross at 6:30am during sunrise.

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So, I set our alarm clock for o dark thirty and off we trounced. It was a mystical foggy morning. Fortunately my husband brought our flashlight to light our path. As we climbed the windy hill, the smell on ponderosa pines filled the air and the sound of pine needles crunched beneath our shoes.

When we made it to the top, the mist began to lift as the sun peaked out. I rolled out a blanket and plopped down next to our friend Bob. “Good morning and Happy Easter,” I said while hugging him.

There were approximately 100 people gathered outside. I could see my breath as we sang worship songs together. As we lifted our voices, I heard the birds join the choir with their own melodious song.

Then, a local pastor who has served our community for more than 20 years shared the good news with us that Jesus died for our sins on a cross, rose in three days and is seated in Heaven. As he spoke, drops of dew dripped on my sleeve. Thankfully, I was bundled up with a wool cap, scarf and gloves.

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Immediately afterwards, we hiked back down the trail and a fresh, hot meal awaited us in the lodge. The smell of eggs, potatoes, sausage and coffee permeated the air.

When we parted ways, I returned home and settled back in for a long winter’s nap. Delightful!

How do you and your family celebrate Easter Sunday?

Blessings, Rebecca

Hone Your Craft

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I can’t believe I am here. I am so excited to once again attend the Mt Hermon Christian Writer’s Conference.

As with anything in life (work, sports, hobbies, relationships, etc.), the more you invest, the better the results.

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This year, I am taking a non-fiction major track with amazing Author BJ Taylor to hone my craft on a beautiful campus. Throughout our stay, we’ve experienced a myriad of weather including rain, sun and fog.

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I am blessed to have a family who supports my endeavor and a boss allowing me to flex my hours, because a 5 day conference impacts all of our schedules.

How do you hone your craft?

Blessings, Rebecca

 

 

Dating

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At what age did you start dating? That has been the question in my household for my teenagers.

For me, it was 16. I went to the junior prom with my date and some friends.

Our son will be 16 in a mere 3 months and he asked us if he and his friend could “hang out” with couple of girls. I talked it over with Austin’s friend’s mom and she agreed to it as well. The rules being a group in a public setting.

Since Austin’s foot is fractured, they had to find a simple activity. Bowling – nope. Put put golf – nope. Hang out at a coffee shop – yep.

Friday afternoon arrived and his friend’s mom dropped the pair off. At pick up, we asked how it went. He said it was fun talking all four of them.

Phew, that went well. Thank you Lord!

Do you have children dating? How is your family navigating these unchartered waters?

Blessings, Rebecca

Fidelity

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Fidelity – Faithfulness to a person, cause or belief, demonstrated by continuing loyalty and support.

My husband Randy and I met when we were 32 and married at 35. By that time, we both had experienced dating nuisances. It is so satisfying to be in a faithful relationship. I know I can trust him when he is attending a conference out of town, and he can stand confident when I am out running errands knowing that’s where I am.

Before I met Randy, I dated in the hopes of getting married and starting a family. During that time, I encountered disappointments and heartbreak from shenanigans such as games, infidelity, drug addictions, prejudism, stalking and even incarceration.

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When I met Randy, it was refreshing to meet a guy that what you see is what you get. There is no pretense in our relationship and we share open/honest communication.

In June, we will celebrate 17 years of marriage, and we still share the same trust as we did since we said, “I do.” The insignia on the inside of my engagement ring which reads, “My Best Friend” is a daily reminder.

My hope is that my children will recognize the importance of commitment and will experience it for themselves some day with their spouse.

Here is one Bible verse that was read at our wedding ceremony I’d like to share with you.

For this reason a man shall leave his father

and mother to be united to his wife

and the two shall become one flesh.

-Ephesians 5:31

What have been your experiences in dating and/or marriage?

Blessings, Rebecca

Benched

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Have you ever broken a bone? Well, my husband and I have not. Thank the Lord! Upon our son’s return from youth winter camp, he complained of a sore right foot. When I looked at it, it was red and swollen.

We took Austin to the doctor and the x-ray showed it is fractured. Ugh! This on the heal of making the high school JV volleyball team (shown above). The podiatrist issued him a boot and crutches (see below) to be worn for 4-6 weeks. All this happened on the first game of the season. I am proud of him that he chose to still support his teammates by watching on the sideline.

20180303_194127.jpgAs a mom, it is extremely difficult to watch your child be “benched” for a period of time. The comfort I have is knowing Austin is in God’s hands and our family/friends are praying for him. Also, I lean on God’s word such as Isaiah 53:5.

But He was pierced for our transgressions,

He was crushed for our iniquities;

the punishment that brought us peace was on Him,

and by His wounds we are healed.

Have you had to watch your child(ren) suffer and/or go through a healing process? Feel free to share with us.

Blessings, Rebecca

Play

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I am a planner and have my todo list. When I accomplish a task, I scratch it off. Homework√ Laundry√ Groceries√ Clean house√ However, lately the idea of play has been on my mind.

So, this weekend we sent our son to Hume Lake for a high school youth group winter camp. My husband Randy and I had the weekend with our daughter Alicia. We spontaneously grabbed coffee/chai…

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and drove over the hill to Saratoga to eat at one of our favorite restaurants called Bill of Fare.  My daughter and husband ate pancakes and I devoured rice, eggs and bacon. Yum!

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Then, we drove 30 minutes north to attend the San Mateo Truck & Jeep Expo. It was the first time we’ve attended anything like this. It was fun walking around looking at all the 4 wheel drive vehicles and after market upgrades. Below, I am in sitting in a Polaris sand rail. That’s what I’m talkin’ about!

20180224_140943I understand the importance of work. My aim is to play more. In fact, God’s word encourages us to in Zechariah 8:5

“The city streets will be filled with boys and girls playing there.”

Do you balance life with work and play? I’d love to hear how you do both.

Blessings, Rebecca

Mass Shootings

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As a mother of two children, my heart has been heavy with the news of the mass shooting in Parkland, Florida. My thoughts and prayers are with all involved: the victims, their families, the lost shooter/his family and first responders. It is a lose-lose situation for everyone and I can’t even imagine the multiplied sorrow caused by this horrific crime.

Just last week, I received notification from my children’s Principals that our tri-campus had a lock down due to one of the students placed a picture of a gun in a car trunk on social media. When the Sherriff questioned the student, he said it was a joke. That’s not funny! I thank the Lord that my son and daughter returned home safely that day.

As a result of this latest incident, I’ve seen a lot of media surrounding gun control. In fact, there is talk of a march to Washington DC on March 24, 2018. I’ve been listening to both sides and it is a much debated topic. On the one hand, folks would like to see tougher gun control to keep guns out of people’s hands. On the other hand, citizens are fighting for our constitutional right to bear arms. One remark I saw on Facebook I pondered is “Guns have been in American homes for 200+ years and mass shooting have only been the past 30 years.” My fear is if there are strict gun control laws in the US, only criminals who don’t follow the rules will get illegal guns and law-abiding citizens will not be able to fight back on equal ground.

All this to say, I believe we need to find better ways to protect our precious children and other innocent bystanders. When it’s difficult for me to comprehend such evil, I lean on Jesus’ word in John 16:33

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace.

In this world you will have trouble. But, take heart! I have overcome the world.”

What are your thoughts on this topic? I’d love to hear your perspective.

Blessings, Rebecca

 

Moms & Daughters

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Have you ever taken your daughter(s) to a Moms & Daughters retreat? It is a lovely time of refreshing. This weekend, my daughter Alicia and I attended Mission Springs Moms & Daughters Conference. We had a fun time playing, fellowshipping and eating.

This was our third year attending. Usually we hang out in arts and crafts, go zip lining, etc. However, we decided to try some non-traditional activities such as:

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Archery.

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Of course, we did some traditional activities as well such as:

20180210_161136_resizedGo on a hike where we saw a flock of wild turkeys.20180210_135456_resized.jpgVisted the petting zoo.

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We spent quality time together and with some great friends that joined us. There were some bumps in the road along the way, but, all in all, we had a fabulous time.

Have you taken your child(ren) on a special weekend outing? If so, I’d love to hear about it. Please share with us.

Blessings, Rebecca