What Does The Bible Say About Marriage?

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Marriage and family are a key to a society’s structure. So, I asked myself this weekend “What does the Bible say about marriage?” As I combed through the concordance, there is many references to marriage, husbands and wives. I have selected a few to share with you.

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1. Binding Contract

Marriage is a covenant between a husband and a wife.

Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? – 2 Corinthians 6:14

This particular verse has meaning to me in that I wanted to marry a man with the same faith values as me, because I knew there could be disagreements about such things as going to church, reading the Bible, prayer, etc.; especially when it came to raising our children.

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2. Purity

Faithfulness to one another is key.

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. – Hebrews 13:4

I understand this verse can be countercultural if you watch various films and television programs where partners live together before marriage, spouses cheat on one another, etc. However, I believe God is protecting the sanctity of marriages as it is a holy union between husband and wife.

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3. Blessing or Curse

As wives, we can either be a blessing or a curse to our husbands.

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is as rottenness in his bones. – Ephesians 12:4

I look back on a time when a friend shamed my husband in front of me and the kids. I remember how awful he felt. Unfortunately, we had to end that unhealthy friendship, because we understand the importance of wholesome relationships.

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4. Respect

It’s important to respect one another and our marital positions.

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. – Ephesians 5:22

I know this verse is not very popular in our American culture today; especially with the feminist movement.  However, God is a God of order and He is above all and places the husband as head of the household.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; – Ephesians 5:25

In addition to the huge responsibility of being head of his family, a husband is given the duty to love his wife sacraficially.

Frankly, I appreciate this covering from my husband. Now, is it always easy to submit, “No.” I grew up very independent, career driven and didn’t marry until 35 years of age. So, I am learning what that looks like.  As a result, I believe God has blessed our marriage of 17 years.

These verses are just a few I discovered on marriage.  There are many more in the Bible. I encourage you to seek for yourself.

What principles is your marriage built on? I would love to hear about them.

Blessings, Rebecca

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Mother and Daughter

Alicia and I attended our third annual Mother and Daughter conference at Mission Springs. 

Although it rained cats and dogs, we enjoyed quality time together.

We attended a DIY bath bomb class.

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During a break in the storm, we took a hike.

We decorated journals with friends.

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The meals were delicious.  We especially enjoyed Sunday brunch with quiche, cheese/meat tray, tator tots, salad and donuts. There was something yummy for everyone.

We walked up the hill to enjoy outdoor activities such as ax/knife throwing, archery, petting zoo, etc.

All in all, it was a very nice girl time. If you haven’t tried a parent/child camp, I highly recommend it.

How was your weekend?

Blessings, Rebecca

Community

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Crrraaaack, snap…boom! My son and I looked at each other on the couch, because we knew a tree had just fallen.

I jumped up, put my rain boots and ran outside. I walked up and down our street, but didn’t see anything.

A few minutes later, we heard sirens. So, Austin threw on his sneakers to see what all the commotion was about. He discovered our neighbor two blocks away had a 100′ douglas fir tree fall on it.

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I turned on Fire Dispatch scanner and heard the local fire department requesting dispatch to notify American Red Cross the house is uninhabitable due to a large hole in it.

I turned on my work radio and heard coworkers helping the family evacuate to a safe place, because they were also downed high voltage lines sparking nearby. Thank the Lord no one was hurt.

We later learned that the family was offered a Mount Hermon cabin, another neighbor’s house across the street or lodging through American Red Cross.

I love our community! It’s awesome to see folks come together to help one another during tough times and celebrate life together.

Last year, I wrote about a fire behind our house. So many folks have helped the three families who lost their homes by offering them places to stay, meals and support through rebuilding.

Earlier this week, a co-worker went around collecting money to help two struggling families with rent and food.

Another co-worker picks up food donations every Thursday from a local church and places it on a bench outside an office the anyone to take from.

Also, a resident emailed me a Meal Train calendar to share with our community for a couple who just had a baby.

In December, I shared how how we were blessed by friends and co-workers with a mountain cabin for a week at Christmas.

In the past couple of months, we’ve hosted baby showers for expectant parents blessing them with necessary items for their little ones.

In April, we will celebrate a co-worker’s wedding.

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Again, I absolutely love our community! I feel blessed to be a part of it. We care for one another, reach out and get involved.

And He said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind; and your neighbor as yourself.” – Luke 10:27

Do you live in an amazing community as well? If so, I would love to hear about. Please share with us.

Blessings, Rebecca

Leash

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Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old, he will not depart from it. – Proverbs 22:6

This week I was reflecting on my teenage children and thinking to myself it’s difficult to determine how how much leash to let out and when to do so.

On the one hand, I’d like to hold their little hands forever.  On the other hand, I know I must let go gradually so they become strong adults.

It is a very challenging step in my life. So, I practiced letting go just a little bit this weekend.

Friday night was their high school winter dance. I dropped Alicia off two hours early to help set up the hall.

Austin was invited to a friend’s house for dinner beforehand. So, I dropped him off.

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Randy picked up both of them up safe and sound at 10pm. Phew! That wasn’t so bad.

The next day, Austin got invited to attend a dance and etiquette class about 20 miles away. Afterwards, they went to a friend’s house for snacks and hangout.  I picked him up at 10pm. Hmm, not bad. I think I can do this.

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On Sunday, Alicia received a call from a friend who moved to a different school who wanted to catch up. Normally, I would escort my daughter everywhere she goes. However, I thought I would let the two of them walk around the beach area while I rested on a bench near the water.

An hour and a half later, they showed up happy as clams.  Gulp. I guess while my kids are growing, so am I.

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Have your children transitioned from little ones to young adults? If so, how did you handle it?

Blessings, Rebecca

MLK Day

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Today our nation remebered Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr. for his civil rights activism from 1954 to 1968.

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” – MLK

Our President and Vice President made an unexpected visited to the MLK memorial statue.

Also, President Trump sent out this proclamation.

Thank you Dr. King for your sacrificial life’s work.

What did you do on this day?

Blessings, Rebecca

Birthdays

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We celebrated my sister-in-law’s 50th birthday and my brother’s upcoming birthday this weekend.

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Her celebration comes shortly after the Christmas where we celebrated the birth of our savior.

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Last October, we celebrated my dad’s 80th birthday.  That’s a big one!

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Truth be told though, birthdays have always been a bit awkward for me.  Since they are a gift from God, I am learning to embrace them.

How do you and yours celebrate birthdays?

Blessings, Rebecca

New Year & New Findings

As we enter 2019, I would like to wish you a very Happy New Year.

Behold I will do something new. Now it will spring forth. Will you not be aware of it? I will even make a roadway in the wilderness, rivers in the desert.

-Isaiah 42:19

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Beach

On the first of January, we had the day off so our family took a drive up the coast to a new site.

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We grabbed a mocha at a new coffee shop for us: The Verve and headed to Shark Fin Cove.  It is a quaint cove with gorgeous coarse, cream colored sand with a rock formation shaped like a shark fin protruding from the sea.

20190101_115449Afterwards, we jumped in our car and drove two miles north and peaked over the bluffs at beautiful Davenport beach.

We bumped into our friends Bill and Linda who were also enjoying the warm Fall day and caught up on each other’s lives.

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Restaurants

The same two friends gave us a generous gift card for Christmas with one stipulation; we were invited to go on a triple date night at Crow’s Nest. It was a great night of food, fun and fellowship. It was a first in 20 years.

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We received another Christmas gift card from other friends to a brand new restaurant in Capitola.

We headed over for an early dinner and then attended a Saturday night church service. We enjoyed the endless breadsticks, soup, salad and delicious pasta!

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Exercise

My daughter invited me to join her exercising via a YouTube video. I had never done pilates before and rather enjoyed building core strength.

What did you do for New Year’s?

Blessings, Rebecca

Good Gifts

Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the father above with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow. 

-James 1:17

During this Christmas season God has been blessing our family. We’ve been puposeful on keeping watch for His hand at work. It’s fun to be surprised and see Him work through His creation.

Cabin

As I mentioned last week, my coworkers blessed our family with a beautiful mountain cabin for Christmas.  Well, the Guest Services Manager surprised us with four additional days. So, we get to enjoy it for a full week. Awesome! 

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We have been blessed with our Facilities team making sure we are stocked with firewood. Also, we woke up to beautiful poinsettias placed on our porch. Wow!

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Tree

I also mentioned we were given a wonderful fresh cut tree by a coworker.  Another friend lent us some lights and a different frient lent us decorations for it and the cabin.

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Presents

Day after day, we have been given Christmas presents from gift cards, basketball trading cards, clothes, money, cocoa mugs, candy, flowers and even bookmarks for which we had none. We are humbled by our community’s generosity.

Jesus

All of these things are nice. However, the best gift God gave us is His son Jesus.

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And it came to pass in those days that a decree went out from Caesar Augustus that all the world should be registered. This census first took place while Quirinius was governing Syria. So all went to be registered, everyone to his own city.
Joseph also went up from Galilee, out of the city of Nazareth, into Judea, to the city of David, which is called Bethlehem, because he was of the house and lineage of David, to be registered with Mary, his betrothed wife, who was with child. So it was, that while they were there, the days were completed for her to be delivered. And she brought forth her firstborn Son, and wrapped Him in swaddling cloths, and laid Him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn.

-Luke 2:1-7

May you have a very Merry Christmas!

Blessings, Rebecca

Bonus

A friend invited us to see a train exhibit they were hosting at a their church. It was a colorful winter wonderland.

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Christmas Season (Part III)

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8 days before Christmas. Wow!

Concert

We attended our second Mount Hermon Christmas concert & buffet. We savoured another delicious prime rib, salmon and ham dinner before listening to these amazing musicians. The King’s Brass played a mixture of traditional and original arrangement Christmas songs.

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Brunch

For the past three years I cherish getting together with girlfriends for brunch. It’s a wonderful time of fun, food and fellowship.

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Christmas Party

Our family attended my husband’s company Christmas dinner party. Everyone brought an appetizer.  Then, the kitchen staff served us ham, turkey, green beans, garlic mash potatoes, salad, yams and rolls.

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Santa came to Mission Springs and shared with us a sermonette about the birth of our savior and then we sang songs together.

All the while we remember Jesus is the reason for the season

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How are you spending your Christmas season?

Blessings,   Rebecca

Bonus

Our friend surprised us by taking up a collection at my work to rent a cabin in the mountains. He said the Lord placed it on his heart and he wanted to bless our family. Amazing!

Our extended family will be joining us for a special time. We cannot wait…

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