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Mano-a-Mano

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Do you ever date your children? In other words, do you take your kids out one on one aka mano-a-mono? This week, while my husband  and daughter attended a Dads-Daughter retreat, our son and I spent quality time together. We explored our neighboring community; San Jose, California. While, we were together, I realized there are three things we can do “date” our children.

  1. Be Purposeful – Our busy schedules challenge us to take time to play. We love to do things as a family such as camping, walking, hiking, etc.! So, for me, I must be purposeful in planning time alone time with each of my children. 20160422_182514-1
  2. Let them Pick – As a parent, it’s easy for me to plan my children’s events. This time, I asked Austin, “What would you like to do?” In my mind, I had a specific restaurant I like to frequent. However, I let him choose where we ate. Guess what? He picked the very one I love! Here we are pictured at Kianti’s Italian Restaurant in downtown Santa Cruz, California. The next day, I was thinking of taking Austin fishing at our local lake that opened up after three years of drought. However, he chose to explore my old stomping grounds in San Jose. Unlike me who grew up on a PC, he grew up on Apple products at school and owns an Iphone. He asked is we could tour the Apple campus. Here he is in front of the beautiful building located in Cupertino, California. Although, the offices were closed, to our surprise, their store out front was open. We window shopped and saw their watches, mac books, beats headphones, tv, and souvenirs. 20160423_114812_resized
  3. Be Present – Often, we can get sidetracked by phone calls, e-mails, texts, etc. Austin wanted to play put put golf. While we played, I noticed another mom working on her Ipad the entire time. The saying, “They are only little for a short time” is so true. So, I personally savored every minute with my teenager, because I know in in 5 short years he’ll be off to college! Enjoy your children, because they are a gift from God. – Psalm 127:320160423_131604_resizedDo you take your son or daughter out one on one? If so, I’d love to hear about it! Feel free to share…
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Guest Blog by Tracey Clayton

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As we wrap up 2015, I’d like to wish you and yours happiness in the New Year!

This week, my guest blog writer is Tracey Clayton. She is a full-time mom of three girls. Tracey loves to cook, bake, sew and spend quality time with her daughters. She’s passionate  about writing, and her motto is “Live the life you love, love the life you live.” You can follow her on Facebook. Please welcome Tracey!

Blessings, Rebecca

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Things that the kids can learn from their surroundings

The child’s environment plays an important role in his/her education. Parents should make every effort to ensure that this environment does not bring negative effects to the child, and they must make a great effort to guide their child to the right track.

Parents are the role models

As the child’s immediate environment is the family, it is inevitable that the child takes the characteristics of his/her parents. Therefore, parents should be careful about how they treat their children; it is not strange if children become mean or very aggressive if parents show identical behavior in front of them. Parents need to have a healthy attitude towards a situation that presents itself. If a problem occurs, for example, they must be able to show the resolve or at least seem to have courage to overcome it. As parents are the role models for their children, kids often simply copy the look and behavior.

Peer pressure

Apart from education provided by the parents, the children also receive education in their immediate environment, the most important thing being school. The relationship with teachers and peers has an effect on children’s education. Children often tend to follow what their friends do.

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The importance of games

Play is essential to the child especially in early years. Combining learning and entertainment is an interesting concept involving the game. Through play, the children are not subjected to any pressure and progress at their own pace. It contributes significantly to the motor development in the simplest possible way. This is also a way to develop communication between children and parents. When they play pretend, children understand the world by trying things they have learned and they have seen, and reflecting their impressions. Just looking at my girls play, I could learn a lot about what they feel and think.

Games with rules

At about time they start school, children start to play games governed by rules, which they must comply. This encourages them to use strategies, logic and their moral judgment. Board games, card games and team sports all involve rules. They help children to learn to play in turn, negotiate, solve problems and get along with others.

Useful toys

Toys are an essential part of education, proper development and education in a child’s life. Apart from getting my kids toys that are appropriate for their age and stimulate learning, I also allowed them to play with different household items such as pots and magnets, and I even got them a Zado rug, with alphabet, so that they could subconsciously learn while playing.

The influence of technology

It is certain that the development of technology significantly changed the role of parents. It was really hard for me to comprehend that something that was not part of my growing up, is now an integral part of childhood for my children. However, regardless of all the technological wonders that surround us – the kids are still kids! That is, while kids acquire certain skills through games, mobile phones and computers as they grow up, playing with a ball, riding a bike, and other small, everyday activities, precisely at the appropriate age and in an appropriate manner – will not be able to get compensation later. Your participation as a parent is of paramount importance, much to the benefit and satisfaction of both you and your child.

The positive education demands patience because the child does not adhere very quickly to change. Parents must accompany the children and encourage them, providing everything necessary for the proper development while taking care of children’s immediate surroundings.

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Thanksgiving Dinner

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As Thanksgiving approaches, I wanted to share a wonderful story I will never forget.

And my God will supply all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.

– Phillipians 4:19 NASB

On a crisp Thanksgiving morning in 2012, I awoke to my four-year-old daughter crying.

“Mommy, I don’t feel good.”

“Uh oh, you have a fever. Get some rest sweetheart.”

Now, what will I serve my family for our Thanksgiving dinner? After all, we were invited to eat at my brother and sister-in-law’s house.

I phoned Greg, “Sorry, we can’t make it this year. Alicia has a fever of 101.”

“No problem Sis. I hope she feels better. We’ll get together soon.”

I cuddled up on the couch with my six-year-old son and husband to watch the holiday parades.

A few hours later, there was a knock at our front door. Who could that be?  To my surprise, Greg and Connie stood there with arms brimming with bags.

My jaw dropped, “Hi, what are you two doing here?”

“We thought since you guys couldn’t join us for Thanksgiving, we’d join you.”

That afternoon, we feasted on turkey and all the trimmings and fellowshipped. It amazed me how they drove sixty miles to share a scrumptous meal together.

There is so much to be thankful for this season. What are you thankful for?

Miscarriage: The Loss of our Baby

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The Ultrasound Technicians slowly moved her wand through the warm gel along my lower abdomen. I watched her face desperately searching for a ray of hope. She turned off the equipment, “I’m sorry Mrs. Krusee, but your baby’s heart is no longer beating.” Water filled my eyes, What! This can’t be happening…I’m only five weeks along!

On my ride home, my mind rehearsed the devastating report. I reflected on the fact we married later in life at age 35, had our son Austin at 36, and tried for over a year to conceive this baby at age 39. My heart sunk!

I shared the crushing news with my husband Randy. We cried, knelt at our bedside and prayed for God to heal our broken hearts, and to bless us with another child.

My doctor suggested I rest my body for 30 days before trying again. I did, and to our surprise the following month, we discovered we were pregnant!

Nine months later, we welcomed our precious daughter Alicia.

Recently, a friend taught me the baby following a miscarriage is called a “Rainbow Child.” I like that analogy of something beautiful following a storm, because she definitely fills our lives with color. Also, I have hope and look forward to meeting our baby in Heaven some day.

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For those of you who have also suffered the loss of a child or struggle with fertility, I want to extend my sympathy to you. I empathize with your inexplicable pain, and pray you find comfort in the loving arms of God during your difficult time.

Blessings, Rebecca

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Guest Blog by Christy Shults

My goal is to share insightful parenting/children blogs Monday evenings. This week’s schedule was interrupted by a respiratory infection. Thank God I am on the road to recovery!

Enough about me. I am delighted to introduce you to Christy. I met her shortly after moving into her father’s neighborhood in Ben Lomond, California. Even though both her dad and I have moved away, it’s such a small mountain community that I see her frequently. In fact, her son is one of my pre-school students.

Christy is an amazing woman, mother, businesswoman, artist and student! She’s the mastermind behind the illustrations of Am I Pretty which she designed from scratch as well as other books she’s illustrated for me.

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If you are in the market for unique handcraft gifts, head on over to her on line stores Hilde Hauc and Zelzi Belle. I asked her to share her thoughts with on parenting two young children. Please welcome Christy Shults!

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My name is Christy and I am a single mommy of two awesome kiddos, Mikayla ten and Zachy five. I am a full time student and I have many little jobs entertaining my creative side. I can imagine that the perfect mother with the perfect kids never raises her voice to her children nor do they give her a reason to do so. However, here on God’s green earth, my children and I were created with free will, so there are many days we irritate each other.

Lately mornings in my house have been filled with whining and crying children and my voice carrying through every room with aggravation. We make it to the car, I apologize for yelling, feel the guilt multiply and repeat the next day. But today I had a parenting win! I told Zach to get dressed, and he needed to be done by the time I got out of the shower. I get out, look at his pile of clothes, look at him and see he has only put on his shirt. My temperature starts to rise, and then I see Mikayla looking at me with the uh oh here it comes look. So I calmly call Zach into my room, get down on his level and ask him, “Zachy, what did I ask you to do?” He starts to respond, “Mommy I was going to die on my game so I couldn’t finish getting dressed.” Deep breathe…”Zachy, did I ask you to get dressed or win your game?” “You asked me to get dressed.” Wow, he got it. “So do you think you should finish getting dressed before you play?” “Okay Mommy.” I look over at Mikayla and she is smiling taking it all in. I don’t know how tomorrow will go, but this morning was a Mommy win.

Those kind of mornings make me feel like, okay, I got this. Then there are some days where I just cannot hold onto the calm. I am human, it is natural. What I can do though, is let my children know that I am sorry.  That I should not have yelled. If I own my faults then I will be setting an example to them. This has really worked in my household. My ten year old is going into her pre-teens and I am so proud of her when she comes to me and explains that she was feeling overwhelmed and that is why she may have slammed the door. Or even my five year old son told me that even when he is mad and he says he doesn’t love me, he still does, he is just mad right then.

We have to remember that we are forgiven, and to forgive ourselves too, and offer our apologies.