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Farewell Friend

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My husband Randy had the honor of officiating a friend’s memoral this past weekend.

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About three years ago we met this family who are residents where Randy works. Their kids hung out with our kids.

Unfortunately after battling cancer for a couple of years, her body finally succumbed to the treacherous disease.

My heart aches for her widower, son, daughter-in-law, two daughters and two granddaughters.

One of her daughters chose a beautiful ocean venue for the service.  They rented a house overlooking the Pacific Ocean. It was stunning!

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View from balcony

Their closest family and friends came together to laugh, cry, comfort one another and share stories.

We were blessed by the love she shared with our family during her time with us and we enjoyed listening to stories of how she impacted the lives of others.

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I learned more about her love, encouragement, inspiration and open door policy.  Man, what a role model!

Attending something like this reminds me to live life to the fullest and embrace the people God has placed in your life.

Blessings, Rebecca

What Does The Bible Say About Marriage?

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Marriage and family are a key to a society’s structure. So, I asked myself this weekend “What does the Bible say about marriage?” As I combed through the concordance, there is many references to marriage, husbands and wives. I have selected a few to share with you.

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1. Binding Contract

Marriage is a covenant between a husband and a wife.

Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? – 2 Corinthians 6:14

This particular verse has meaning to me in that I wanted to marry a man with the same faith values as me, because I knew there could be disagreements about such things as going to church, reading the Bible, prayer, etc.; especially when it came to raising our children.

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2. Purity

Faithfulness to one another is key.

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. – Hebrews 13:4

I understand this verse can be countercultural if you watch various films and television programs where partners live together before marriage, spouses cheat on one another, etc. However, I believe God is protecting the sanctity of marriages as it is a holy union between husband and wife.

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3. Blessing or Curse

As wives, we can either be a blessing or a curse to our husbands.

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is as rottenness in his bones. – Ephesians 12:4

I look back on a time when a friend shamed my husband in front of me and the kids. I remember how awful he felt. Unfortunately, we had to end that unhealthy friendship, because we understand the importance of wholesome relationships.

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4. Respect

It’s important to respect one another and our marital positions.

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. – Ephesians 5:22

I know this verse is not very popular in our American culture today; especially with the feminist movement.  However, God is a God of order and He is above all and places the husband as head of the household.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; – Ephesians 5:25

In addition to the huge responsibility of being head of his family, a husband is given the duty to love his wife sacraficially.

Frankly, I appreciate this covering from my husband. Now, is it always easy to submit, “No.” I grew up very independent, career driven and didn’t marry until 35 years of age. So, I am learning what that looks like.  As a result, I believe God has blessed our marriage of 17 years.

These verses are just a few I discovered on marriage.  There are many more in the Bible. I encourage you to seek for yourself.

What principles is your marriage built on? I would love to hear about them.

Blessings, Rebecca

Road Trip

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This past weekend, we took a road trip to drop off Austin and Alicia to summer camp in Santa Barbara. I had never been there so we made an adventure of it.

Our first stop was in San Luis Obispo to grab a coffee in town. We walked around a bit and my daughter really liked the “vibe.” I may have to bring her back down again some time soon to see if she would like to attend Cal Poly.

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Our next stop was at our camp site at Rancho Oso RV park. It was a blistering hot day and we reserved a special tent. {See below}

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We were eager to sight see. So, we headed downtown to the State St. There my daughter found a three story Forever 21 store. As you can imagine, she loved every inch of it. Also, we strolled along the Sterns Wharf.

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Another stop we made was in Solvang; a cute Dutch town for a delicious meal at the Viking Garden Restaurant and danish treat at Olsen’s bakery. Randy and I finally got to visit this adorable spot after many friends’ recommendations.

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The next day, after breakfast, we headed to the Santa Barbara Beach, played in the water and rested under a shady cypress tree. Afterwards, we went into town and ate at Mesa Pizza restaurant. From there we headed to Westmont College to drop the kids off at Frontier Ranch camp. The campus is quaint landscaped with beautiful trees and gardens.

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On our return flight,  I was merging from the fast lane on Highway 101 into the slow lane when my husband and I felt the car get sluggish. We pulled off the highway and noticed our front passenger tire had blown. We prayed for safety and quickly changed our tire. In a few short minutes, we were on our way again. While working on the tire, a car full of college students stopped to make sure we were okay. That was very kind of them. We noticed our spare tire only had 29psi and it calls for 42psi. So, we prayed again, drove gingerly to the neighboring town and put air in it. Thank the Lord we arrived safe and sound to both destinations.

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Have you taken an adventurous road trip? Please share with us…

Blessings, Rebecca

Our Special Day

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This week, Randy and I will celebrate 17 years of marriage and I’d like to share a story with you. I hope you enjoy it.

Blessings,  Rebecca

I nervously paced back and forth in the church auxiliary room while our family and friends awaited my grand entrance. I reflected on the day’s events. It began early with a delicious mocha and bagel as I drove sixty miles to my hairdressers. Two hours later, she handed me a mirror.

“Do you like your hair and make-up?” 

“Like it? I love it! I feel like a princess. Thank you so much!”

On my way to the church, I called my future mother-in-law, Dianna, to let her know I would be there soon. Upon my arrival, my future sister-in-laws whisked me into the preparation room to help me with my dress and final touch-ups.

“Hurry up! It’s almost time. You don’t want to be late for your own wedding. Do you?”

They excused themselves and I was alone for the first time all day. I heard our guests arriving and groomsmen seating them. I gazed into the mirror one last time and thought to myself. After being the bridesmaid for the umpteenth time, I’m finally a bride at thirty-five-years-old.

I grinned while I reflected on our initial meeting two-and-a-half-years earlier. Dianna and my manicurist talked about us for one month and then exchanged our phone numbers. Randy and I met for coffee the following Friday and found we had a lot in common. After a lengthy discussion, we grew hungry and continued our conversation across the street at a Chinese restaurant.  Three hours later, the owner leaned against the wall with folded his arms. “Sorry, folks we closed 30 minutes ago.” We chuckled as we excused ourselves.

My reflection was interrupted when my favorite song started playing on the church sound system. Our friend, Gervy, put together a video collection of our childhood and dating photographs. I was pleasantly surprised to hear it in stereo, because originally he was authorized to use his projector with tiny speakers. Sniffles and sighs of “Ahhhh” soon followed as folks reminisced. Goose bumps traveled up and down my spine as I anticipated my long-awaited walk.

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Suddenly, my wedding coordinator rushed in with a huge smile, “Come on Rebecca. It’s time!”

I met my father in the hall leading up to the altar.

Tears filled his eyes, “You look so beautiful my daughter.”

“Thanks Dad.”

Our friend, Shannon, sang “This is the Day that The Lord has Made” while her husband, Blaine, accompanied her on guitar.

As we strolled down the aisle, everyone stood up and cameras flashed. I looked at my beaming groom. We both had waited a long time to find the person we would spend the rest of our lives with. Next to him stood his groomsmen; his brothers Mike,  Ryan and my brother Greg.

When I reached him, our Pastor asked my dad the proverbial question.

“James Mosberger, who gives this woman to marry this man?”

“We do,” he proudly said. He gently transferred my right hand into my future husband’s hand.

I stepped forward, but struggled. I quickly looked behind me and noticed my father  standing on the lace train of my dress. Stunned, he forgot to sit down after giving me away. Next to me stood my bridesmaids and my long time friends Joyce, Gillynn and Carina.

Our ceremony was traditional with scriptural readings, the lighting of unity candles, Holy Communion, and marital vows. Unbeknownst to us, during our wedding band exchange, Pastor Jim read love letters we wrote to each other. Tears now filled my eyes and Randy gently wiped them away with his thumb.

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I savored the concluding words, “By the power vested in me by the State of California, I now pronounce you husband and wife. It’s my pleasure to introduce to you for the first time Mr. and Mrs. Randall Krusee.”

The crowd erupted in applause as we kissed and we passed by them.

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Seventeen years later, we are still going strong and living in the majestic Santa Cruz Mountains with our fifteen-year-old son and thirteen-year-old daughter. As a tradition, on our anniversary, we watch our wedding video and are reminded of our commitment to each other.

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Do you have a special story to share with us, please do?

Birthday

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This day in 1965, my in-laws welcomed my husband into the world.  Happy Birthday Randy!

Birthdays can be bittersweet in that we celebrate our family and friends’ special day. Yet, for some, it is a somber day of reflection for the loss of a loved one. In our case, we lost a baby in between Austin and Alicia for which I am gently reminded each November.

My husband shares his birth day with my step-mom who is celebrating a very special birthday as she is undergoing chemotherapy for lung cancer. I am thankful she is still with us and doing extremely well under the circumstances.

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Our family celebrates birthdays in a variety of ways. Sometimes, we throw parties. Sometimes, we simply share a family dinner. We have fun picking out cute birthday cards and gifts for one another.

How do you celebrate birthdays?

Blessings, Rebecca

Marriage

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Recently, I was reading Change Agent by Os Hillman where he cites divorce statistics. Sadly, approximately 45-50% of first marriages, 60-67% of second marriages, and 70-73% third marriages fail. That’s a lot of heartbreak!

Then, I thought, What does the Bible say about marriage? I discovered a lot, but wanted to share two ideas I believe could help many marriages be healthier.

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He Himself

being the Savior of the body. But as the church

is subject to Christ, so also wives ought to be in everything. – Ephesians 5:22-24

  1. Wives submit to their husbands. In today’s culture, submit is a taboo word. Due most in part by people who have abused their God given authority. However, the definition of submit is simply to accept or yield to the authority or will of another person; namely your spouse. I’ll be the first to admit it’s not easy as I am a very strong and independent woman. However, I find when I do, there is less strife in our marriage.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and

gave Himself up for her; that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her

by the washing of water with the word, that He might present Himself

to the church in all her glory, having no spot of wrinkle or any such thing;

but that she should be holy and blameless. So, husbands ought also to

love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife,

loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes it and

cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because

we are members of His body. – Ephesians 5:25-30

2. Husbands love your wives. Again, it today’s culture, men are taught to be strong, self-sufficient  and stuff your emotions. Yet, one definition of love is a person or thing that one loves; beloved, dearest. Perhaps marriages would be happier if husbands (and wives) loved their spouses unconditionally. To further define characteristics of love, here’s what the Bible lists.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.

It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;

it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.  

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Wow, imagine if all marriages were filled with this selfless love! Maybe, just maybe, the divorce rate would diminish significantly or be eliminated entirely.

For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife;

and the two shall become one flesh. – Ephesians 5:31

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Blessings, Rebecca

Do you have any marriage insight you’d like to share with us? If so, I’d love to hear it!

Thanksgiving Dinner

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As Thanksgiving approaches, I wanted to share a wonderful story I will never forget.

And my God will supply all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.

– Phillipians 4:19 NASB

On a crisp Thanksgiving morning in 2012, I awoke to my four-year-old daughter crying.

“Mommy, I don’t feel good.”

“Uh oh, you have a fever. Get some rest sweetheart.”

Now, what will I serve my family for our Thanksgiving dinner? After all, we were invited to eat at my brother and sister-in-law’s house.

I phoned Greg, “Sorry, we can’t make it this year. Alicia has a fever of 101.”

“No problem Sis. I hope she feels better. We’ll get together soon.”

I cuddled up on the couch with my six-year-old son and husband to watch the holiday parades.

A few hours later, there was a knock at our front door. Who could that be?  To my surprise, Greg and Connie stood there with arms brimming with bags.

My jaw dropped, “Hi, what are you two doing here?”

“We thought since you guys couldn’t join us for Thanksgiving, we’d join you.”

That afternoon, we feasted on turkey and all the trimmings and fellowshipped. It amazed me how they drove sixty miles to share a scrumptous meal together.

There is so much to be thankful for this season. What are you thankful for?

Guest Blog by Leilani White

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I met Leilani as a fellow Mommy blogger. I asked her to share her parental insight with us, and she writes about being a mom and stepmom.

Unfortunately, movies and television often portray Stepmothers as not so nice. Let’s turn that perception around, because there are a lot of awesome Stepparents who are loving and caring. Please welcome Leilani White!

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How many out there are stepparents? I’m a mother of 4. Trinity is 15, Leonard III is 11, Alana is 5, and LaRae is 3. They definitely keep me on my toes (especially the 5 year old), but I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. I’m a stepmother to the older two, but I’ve always worked very hard at making sure all four kids feel equally loved, nurtured, and pushed to excel in their strengths.  

The job of a stepparent is a very thankless job, and not everyone is cut out for the task. Being a stepchild myself, I believe that there are two kinds of stepparents out there: the kinds that treat the kids as if they’re their own, and the kind that don’t.

Growing up, I had a stepdad who always provided for me, but he never took any real interest in me, or anything that I took interest in. So when I met my husband and eventually met his kids, I made sure that I didn’t push myself on them. I gave them the respect they deserved, and they gave me the same in return. That was seven years ago, and now I have a total of four kids.  

I make sure that each child knows independently that I love them and why I love them. I point out little differences that set them apart from my other kids, so that they know they’re unique, and I love and admire their uniqueness. I acknowledge their strengths, and help them grow from their weaknesses. 

Whether you’re a stepparent or not, it’s important to make children know that they’re loved and that you’re always in their corner. It’s never to early to teach them what unconditional love is. Children need stability, a firm foundation to build on, and love poured into them. It takes a special person to be an awesome stepparent, and even though I’ve been one for seven years, I’m still learning new things everyday. There have been plenty of times that I’ve had to apologize for not handling something the right way, even with my own kids. But they all know that I love them to the end, and they know that they’re all an intricate tool that makes our family run smoothly. It’s definitely a full time job, but the love I have for all my kids in the end, make it all worth it. 

Leilani White

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Mr. Mom

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I’m so excited to introduce my guest blogger this week….drum role please…my husband Randy Krusee. We met in 1998, married in 2001, welcomed Austin in 2002, and welcomed Alicia in 2004. I invited him to share his experience as a stay-at-home Dad with you. Please welcome Randy Krusee!

Blessings, Rebecca

Being a husband and a father of two has been an incredible journey these past thirteen years! Going from a rugged plumbing contractor to Mr. Mom took four months to settle in. I’m the one staying home and not Rebecca? I would beat myself up saying, “Am I really cut out for this?” We’d decided before the children were born that one parent would stay home.

I’m not aware of any Mr. Mom boot camps out there that could prepare you for the long haul ahead. It took a solid four months until I settled in, and not to worry about what others thought of me in my non-traditional role.

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This period also turned me into a real softy being able to look into my son’s eyes, and say, “I am your Dad. Wow! Two years later having a daughter. Incredible! What an opportunity I’ve been blessed with!

Yes, it was very difficult at times! No doubt! Times of changing messy diapers, cleaning up vomit, calming fevers, sleepless nights, and dropping one off at pre-school while entertaining the other at home. For awhile, the only words I heard during the day were, “Goo Goo Gaa Gaa!” I learned getting out, and talking to adults occasionally helped considerably.

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Some days you get everything done around the house. Followed by the next day that nothing would get accomplished. Things are sure different nowadays than during our childhood. Some dads back then would come home from a hard day’s work, and demand a hot meal to be set before them on the kitchen table. They would look around, and say something like, “What have you done all day,” to their wives. Really?

Hats off to our moms, all moms, and recently some dads who’ve stayed home through the years! It is an extremely hard job, but most rewarding.

So, if you are able to stay home with your kids, the rewards are priceless!

All you stay-at-home parents feel free to chime in and share!