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Leash

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Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old, he will not depart from it. – Proverbs 22:6

This week I was reflecting on my teenage children and thinking to myself it’s difficult to determine how how much leash to let out and when to do so.

On the one hand, I’d like to hold their little hands forever.  On the other hand, I know I must let go gradually so they become strong adults.

It is a very challenging step in my life. So, I practiced letting go just a little bit this weekend.

Friday night was their high school winter dance. I dropped Alicia off two hours early to help set up the hall.

Austin was invited to a friend’s house for dinner beforehand. So, I dropped him off.

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Randy picked up both of them up safe and sound at 10pm. Phew! That wasn’t so bad.

The next day, Austin got invited to attend a dance and etiquette class about 20 miles away. Afterwards, they went to a friend’s house for snacks and hangout.  I picked him up at 10pm. Hmm, not bad. I think I can do this.

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On Sunday, Alicia received a call from a friend who moved to a different school who wanted to catch up. Normally, I would escort my daughter everywhere she goes. However, I thought I would let the two of them walk around the beach area while I rested on a bench near the water.

An hour and a half later, they showed up happy as clams.  Gulp. I guess while my kids are growing, so am I.

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Have your children transitioned from little ones to young adults? If so, how did you handle it?

Blessings, Rebecca

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Girl’s Time

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Five months ago, we planned a girl’s weekend for Mom and Daughter at Mount Hermon.

It was a perfect cabin to bake muffins, make pizza, rest and finish “The Talk.”

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Have you ever shared one on one time with your family member whether it is date night with your spouse or hanging out with you son or daughter? It is a special time for sure, and I encourage you to take the time to do so.

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Blessings, Rebecca

Planning Parenthood

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This week I struggled with writer’s block. So, I spontaneously asked my daughter, “Alicia, what should Mom blog about? She suggested that I write about planning to be a parent.

Are you in a season of planning parenthood? I tell you the truth. I discovered planning my family was more challenging than first thought.

Conception–  at age 35 I married Randy and I “planned” to have a honeymoon baby. Well, one month went by; no baby. Another month went by; no baby. When I spoke to friends, they informed me it could take up to a year to conceive. What? I surrendered it to the Lord and we conceived the next month. We welcomed our son Austin the following July.

Healthy pregnancy – at 36 I “planned” to have our second child. We conceived and unfortunately we lost our fetus at five weeks. Again, I surrendered our second child to God. We conceived again. Yet, during my first trimester, my OBGYN discovered cancer. You can read more about it at My Miracle. Praise God we welcomed our daughter Alicia the following September.

Give birth to a healthy baby – I “planned” to have healthy babies. Because I was over the age of 35, the doctors tested for potential genetic issues such as Spina Bifida,  Downs Syndrome, etc. I’ll be honest, these tests spurred a sense of fear in me. But I know fear doesn’t come from God. It is a tactic of the enemy. Again, I gave it to Him and thankfully we have two healthy children.

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Recover quickly – I “planned” to quickly recover from delivering my babies. It turns out, it took longer than expected to recover from my second delivery. I experienced more abdominal pain after my C – Section and I was exhausted raising a toddler and newborn.

Raise your child(ren) into adulthood – I remember thinking how fun it would be to have a baby…Their cute little toes and hand, smell so good, outfits are adorable, chubby cheeks, etc. BUT, I realized I was a Mom the first time I stayed up late one night nursing my sick infant back to health. It was difficult trying to sooth him while he struggles with fever, vomit and diarrhea at 2:00am. Walking my kids through life’s ups and down is challenging and yet so rewarding. I wouldn’t trade it for anthying.

In sum, we make plans, but they don’t always come to fruition. However, we can believe that God works all things out for good.

And we know that in all things God works for

the good of those who love him, who have been called

according to his purpose. – Romans 8:28

 

Feel free to share your parenting planning with us.

Blessings, Rebecca

Self Care

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For some time now I have been thinking about better self care. Like many moms, I pour everything into my family’s well being. As a result, I don’t spend much time taking care of me.

This week, I challenged myself to step out of my comfort zone. I tried four things:

  • Drank more water. Instead if getting a coke at lunch or dinner, I purposely drank water with my meals. This was huge for me, because I love soda and have since childhood.
  • Cut out sweets. Often, I found myself grabbing candy out of  our vending machine at work. I didn’t buy one candy bar and you know what? I honestly didn’t miss it.
  • Rested. This is by far the hardest for me as I am always doing something such as laundry, cleaning house, buying groceries, helping with homework, etc. However, I carved out a Sunday afternoon nap. Ahhhh
  • Exercised. Again finding time in my schedule to work out is challenging. Yet, my son suggested we work out together as a family.  We had a great time helping each other exercise.

I am no health expert by any means. I am just sharing some things I implemented in my life. I definitely feel better physically and emotionally. I pray I can make it a habit.

Do you have a self care routine you’d like to share with us?

Blessings, Rebecca

Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. – 3 John 1:2

Proverbs 31 Mom

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On Mother’s Day, I was reading Proverbs 31 and thought how impossible it would be a Proverbs 31 woman. Then, my husband handed me my Mother’s Day card depicting The Modern Proverbs 31 Woman. I love how it explained today’s mother, and I wanted to share it with you along with the Bible passage.

10 A wife of noble character who can find?
    She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
    and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
    all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
    and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
    bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
    she provides food for her family
    and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
    out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
    her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
    and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
    and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
    and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
    for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
    she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
    where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
    and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
    she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
    and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
    and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
    her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
    but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

-Proverbs 31

Now enjoy the DaySpring The Modern Proverbs 31 Woman version.

She gets up early to make sure everyone gets breakfast, gets dressed, and she finds the missing library book that is due today.

She’s constantly on the go-shuttling her family to school activities, church activities and extra-curricular activities.

She runs to the grocery store, to the bank, and to pick up a present for a birthday party (all in under one hour).

She cleans, she washes dishes. She does laundry, laundry and MORE laundry.

She checks homework, she makes dinner, she picks up toys off the floor.

She gives discipline when needed and gives love ALWAYS.

She makes sure baths are taken, teeth are brushed, bedtime stories are read, and prayers are said.

She says, “I Love You,” and “good night.”

She gets up in the middle of the night to soothe away bad dreams and stomach aches and to tuck little ones back into bed.

And the next day, she does it all over AGAIN.

You’re a modern day Proverbs 31 woman-You make sacrifices and work really hard so your family has everything they need. For all you do and for the faithful woman you are, you’re appreciated and loved.

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Man, that’s awesome! It hit the nail on the head.

Blessings, Rebecca

I trust you had a fabulous Mother’s Day. If you have something you’d like to share, feel free to do so.

Children Speak

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This week I thought I would ask my children what are the top three things they look for in a mother. In my mind, I thought something like fun to be with or cool. However, some of what they wrote down on a sheet of paper took me by surprise.

My 12-year-old daughter, Alicia, wrote:

  1. Covering – “a thing used to cover something else, typically in order to protect or conceal it.” Alicia looks to me as her protection. Come to think of it, I see her point. Especially in middle school, there are some not so kind girls on campus pestering students. Often at the end of the day, she shares her concerns and we discuss what’s her part in avoiding the drama and how to protect herself.
  2. Loving – “feeling or showing love or great care.” This topic I expected to see, because everyone wants to be loved. My parents didn’t grow up in an era of expressive emotions. As a result, they didn’t outwardly express love to me or my brother. I purposefully tell my kids I love them, hug em’ and kiss em’ frequently to ensure they know they are loved.
  3. Faithful – ” constant, loyal imply qualities of stability, dependability, and devotion.” Interestingly, she selected faithfulness as a top priority. I believe security is important to her. Perhaps it is due to her growing up in a world where terrorist attacks, school shootings, etc. are ever increasing. It must be settling to be able to come home to stability.

My 14-year-old son, Austin, wrote:

  1. Loving –  “feeling or showing love or great care.” So, for him, love is number one. There is an unique bond between son and mother. I purposely love on him and pray that he will love the women in his life.
  2. Supportive – “providing encouragement or emotional help.” As a mom, I support both of my children in all their activities such as academics, sports, friendships, etc. One thing I enjoy is helping him with his homework. It’s quiet one on one time of teaching and learning.
  3. Positive – “a good, affirmative, or constructive quality or attribute.” This characteristic surprised me. It’s a good reminder about the importance of affirmation to our children. I am purposeful to congratulate my kids on accomplishments such as good grades or basketball game, etc.

So, I’ve shared three important motherly characteristics with you. I encourage you to ask your child(ren) “What top 3 things do you want in a Mother?” If you do, and would like to share with us, please do!

 

Adopted Family

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As Christmas approaches, I thought I would share with you a short story about a time when our family was adopted for Christmas. I hope you enjoy…

Blessings, Rebecca

Every good and perfect gift is from above. – James 1:17 

Four days before Christmas, we still hadn’t any gifts for our nine-year-old son and seven-year-old daughter. Due to my recent job loss, my stay-at-home husband/dad and I didn’t have money to purchase presents for our children.

Two weeks earlier, I learned about a local outreach program where they placed your name on a list in the hopes a family would adopt you. I sheepishly applied for our kids so they would have presents to open.

A week later, I received a phone call, “Rebecca, our family has adopted your family for Christmas. We got everything on Austin and Alicia’s wish lists. I’d like to drop it off Wednesday.”

Stunned, “Wow, I don’t know what to say. Thank you so much. Yes, we’ll be here.

I meandered into the garage, “Hon, guess what? We’ve been adopted and she’s bringing our gifts next week.”

“That’s fantastic news,” he chimed.

“You’ll never guess who adopted us. It’s the children’s new school principal. It’s such a small world. I taught her daughter at preschool.” We chuckled.

The day arrived to receive our gifts, and I looked at my husband, “How do you feel?

My stomach is little queasy,” he said.

Mine too. I’ve never done this kind of thing before. We’ve always been able to provide gifts for our children. It’s very humbling.

We heard a knock at our door. My heart pounded in my chest. “Good morning. How are you? I’ve got all your gifts in my car,” she beamed.

We slipped on our shoes, “Let us help you bring the gifts in.”

To our surprise, she reached into her minivan and handed us several brightly wrapped boxes. Our arms were brimming with presents. “Wow, thank you very much! We really appreciate it.

“You’re very welcome. It’s my pleasure. I especially like to help my students.” She hugged us and went on her way.

As Randy and I sorted through the bounty of gifts, we found a $100 grocery gift card labeled “For Mom and Dad.” Tears welled up in my eyes, Thank you God for blessing our family this Christmas.

Have you ever been adopted or adopted a family for Christmas? Please share your experience with us. 

Discussion: Midlife Motherhood

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Are you a midlife Mom like myself?

I’d love to kick off a blog discussion about your parental insight/experience. As for me, I married at 35, had our son at 36 and our daughter at 39. They are 14 and 12 respectively. So, that puts me at age 51 with a high schooler and middle schooler. Most of my friends’ children are in college or have already started their careers.

I love motherhood! I waited a long time for my kiddos and they are precious to me. One thing I’ve learned is that I am not nervous Nelly as I imagine I would’ve been if I had my kids say right out of high school like my Mom did. On the other hand, when Austin and Alicia were babies and woke up for their early am feedings, I found myself bouncing off the walls. So, for me, there is a fine balance between confidence and energy level.

How about you? What have you learned as a midlife Mom?

Blessings, Rebecca

The Birthday Wish

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This week, I wanted to share a story with you about a time God blessed my mother’s heart.

Blessings, Rebecca

My five-year-old daughter, Alicia, nudged her tiny face next to mine. “Mom, can you buy me a Barbie RV and Play Kitchen for my birthday, pleazzzeee?”

I gazed into her penetrating blue eyes and ran my fingers through her soft blonde pigtails. “We’ll see Sweetheart.”

A few days later, I drove to the toy store, and wove my way to the Barbie section. Great there’s one RV in stock!  I reached for the box and glared at the price tag. “One hundred and nine dollars!”  I ambled to the Play Kitchen, and scanned the price. “One hundred and ninety nine dollars!” I took a deep breath, and slowly released it.

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As much as I wanted to purchase these items for my daughter, I couldn’t. My high tech management job moved overseas two years earlier, and my husband ran a struggling business. We simply couldn’t afford them.

Alicia didn’t throw tantrums if she didn’t get what she wanted. She often donated outfits and toys to needy children at a clothing exchange program I created, as well as her Dad distribute supplies to local homeless men and women he established. I hoped that if I didn’t get her those gifts, she’d still be fine. I loved my daughter, and wanted to bless her.

Crushed, I lingered in the toy aisle and prayed. “Father, please somehow make a way to fulfill Alicia’s birthday wish, or help me find the words to tell her we can’t afford them right now.”

I meandered to my car and sank into the driver’s seat.

My mind drifted back to our recent family reunion in Oregon and how Alicia enjoyed  playing with her cousin, Audrey.

Alicia squealed, “Look Mom” as she pressed a bright pink Barbie RV steering wheel. It “beeped.”

Audrey summoned Alicia over to her Play Kitchen. “Help me cook something yummy for your momma.”

Alicia jumped up, pulled out the pots and pans, set the table with miniature dishes. Then Alicia draped a white dish towel over her arm and asked, “Ma’am, what would you like to eat?”

I leaned forward, “I’ll take one large cheese pizza, please.”

“One cheese pizza coming up,” she giggled and skipped off.

When I returned home, I received a temporary teaching assignment on my answering machine. I thanked God I had an opportunity to work at my children’s school, yet wasn’t enough to cover the gifts.

One of the teachers, Mrs. Kim, approached me. “Rebecca, do you think Alicia would like a Barbie RV? My daughter has outgrown hers, and I’d like to find a good home for it.”

I fought back my tears, “Absolutely. I wanted to get her one for her birthday but —.”

She placed her hand on my shoulder, “I understand. It’s hers.”

My voice cracked, “Thank you so much. I really appreciate it.”

The following day, she walked me to her car, opened the hatch and handed me a sparkly pink Barbie RV.

“Here you go. I hope she enjoys it.”

“Thank you so much. She’ll be surprised.”

I placed it in my trunk., turned around and she proceeded to hand me a purple box brimming with accessories.

“I thought Alicia could use these as well.”

I grabbed the handle, “I don’t know what to say – Thank you.”

At the end of my shift, I rummaged through the box and it was packed with new and gently used RV gadgets, Barbies and doll clothes. This is awesome!

A day or two later, our family picked up two of Alicia’s friends and headed to the beach for her sixth birthday party.

After a perfect outing, we drove her friends home. Their mother opened her screen door and stepped onto the porch carrying a little girl on her hip.

“Rebecca, I wasn’t able to buy Alicia a present today, because I had to babysit my niece. I’ll run to the store later.”

I brushed her niece’s golden hair, “Don’t worry about it.”

She pointed to the backyard, “do you think she’d  like a Play Kitchen? My girls no longer use it and you’re welcome to have it.”

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I moved towards it, “Yes, she’d love it.” It’s perfect; pink and comes with miniature dishes and food.

 She pivoted, “Does she want a Play Makeup Station too?”

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“Are you kidding? Alicia plays dress-up all the time. Yes, I’ll take it.” This is unbelieveable. The Lord blessed Alicia with a RV, Play Kitchen and Play Makeup Station. Wow!

As I drove home with a truckload full of toys,  my eyes moistened. I whispered, “God, You are so good! Thank You for granting my little girl’s birthday wish, and for answering a mother’s desperate prayer.”

We pulled into our driveway and Alicia crawled onto my lap. I nuzzled my nose next to hers and looked deep into her eyes.

“Sweetie, I believe God  has blessed your faithfulness. He loves you so much!”

She wrapped her arms around me. “I know Mom that Jesus loves us.”

“Happy Birthday Sweetheart!”

Delight yourself in the Lord;

And He will give you the desires of your heart. – Psalm 37:4

Do you have a tender moment you’d like to share with us? I’d love to hear about it!