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Guest Blog by Amy Lu

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This week’s guest blogger is Amy Lu.She is  a Midwest girl from Michigan who enjoys writing children’s picture books,blogging about motherhood, and sharing reading inspiration. You can check out her adventures as a mother of two little cuties and former first grade teacher who loves reading, drinking coffee, and doing yoga. She’d love to connect with you on Facebookor Instagram. Please welcome Amy!

Blessings, Rebecca

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7 Parenting Tips from the Book Loving Our Kids on Purpose

When I first saw the title of this book, Loving Our Kids on Purpose: Making a Heart-To-Heart Connection, I almost decided not to read it. I figured, I already know how to love my child, that’s the easy part. It’s all the other stuff that is hard. However, I am so glad that I didn’t stop there. This has been one of the best parenting books I have read. It challenged me to think about how I was raised, and the kind of parent I want to be. I picked 7 highlights, but there is really so much more to this book. I highly recommend it and only wish I would have read it sooner.

  1. You can’t control your child.

This was kind of shocking for me to realize, but I think Danny Silk is on to something. The bottom line is that you can’t actually control anyone except yourself. You may try to control your child, but ultimately it is up to him or her, on whether or not to listen to you. For example, if you ask your child to please eat his carrots, it is up to the child to determine how fast or slow he will do this, and if he will actually obey. This is especially evident as the child grows older.

  1. Nurture a loving relationship between you and your child.

Silk believes that establishing a loving relationship, in which both the parent and child love and trust one another is the key to good parenting. This is the ultimate goal for the parent.

  1. Empower your child by providing choices.

Everyone wants to feel like they are in control of their lives, and that they have the power to make decisions. Silk believes children are no different. One way we, as parents, can work with and not against this is to provide choices. For example, even a toddler can have choices. Let’s say you want the child to go upstairs to get dressed. You could offer the choice of walking or being carried upstairs. This is simple, but it can be applied to the most complex situations. As the parent, it is up to you to provide the child with two choices that you can be content with.

  1. De-escalate arguments with simple responses.

Using phrases such as “I know,” “Probably so,” “That could be,” “I don’t know, and “Nice try”  can help to deescalate arguments with your child. These are phrases Silk references as his favorite from theParenting with Love and Logic book, written by Foster Cline and Jim Fay. This strategy can enable your child to start thinking about how he or she can solve the problem at hand. Parents should maintain a genuinely loving demeanor toward the child to encourage him or her to solve the problem.

  1. Allow your child to experience the consequences of their choices.

As tempting as it may be to rescue your child from the pain or difficulty of consequences, resist. (Note: This is not talking about neglecting a child’s safety.) Parents can create a safe environment for children to make mistakes and learn from them. As parents, we can’t be afraid to let our children mess up. We can build trust with them by letting them know we are there for them in all situations and allowing them to grow from these difficult times.

  1. Choose discipline over punishment.

Discipline allows a child the power to decide how to fix or solve a problem. Punishment is decided solely by the parent.

  1. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable.

Many times parents want to believe that they have the power in the relationship. However, Silk believes that is simply not the case. In fact, he believes that parents should communicate to their children in a way that shows that they too, can be vulnerable. This is why having a loving relationship is so imperative.

How do you love your kids on purpose?  Please share with.us in the comments. 

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Guest Blog by Kathleen Crane

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Have you ever struggled getting your toddler to clean up his/her mess? This week, my guest blogger, Kathleen Crane shares her ideas on getting toddlers to clean up their toys.

Kathleen is professionally experienced in the field of home improvement. She loves to write and share her thoughts with the readers. Please welcome Kathleen!

Blessings, Rebecca

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Toy troubles: My Toddler Won’t Help Clean up

Encouraging your toddler to take part in the cleaning process requires more efforts than you can imagine. Normally, toddlers are not keen on arranging of their toys and rooms and that is why parents will meet a lot of difficulties when involving the toddlers in the basic tasks..

Surely, you need to dedicate a lot of your free time if you want to explain to toddlers why they need to clean up after themselves. Starting with the arranging of the toys is the most appropriate decision as kids spend a great part of their time playing with their favourite toys.

If you want to teach the toddlers how to preserve the immaculate condition of their toys for a longer time, you need to keep in mind certain rules. Thanks to this piece of article you will find decision to a wide range of problems that concern the involving of toddlers into some basic household duties, and especially into the activities that include the arranging of the toys.

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Set Definite Rules 

No matter how much you want to help the toddlers, let them try to manage with the situation in their own way. If you tell them to pick up the toys and to place them in the basket, instead of leaving them spread around the room, you, make sure that they will understand your request correctly. Do not pick the toys instead of them and do not pretend that nothing has happened. Being positive is a good thing, but toddlers need to understand from an early age that it is up to them to keep their toys clean and unbroken.

Encourage The Toddlers To Help With the Cleaning of The Toys

As you can imagine, toddlers won’t be able to provide perfect cleaning of the toys but they can at least help you in this activity. Explain them that toys should be cleaned on a regular basis and that they should give you a helping hand because it comes to their own toys. Most of the toys could be effectively cleaned with a clean cloth and with a solution of warm water and some liquid soap. Demonstrate the toddlers how they can provide a simple cleaning – you will be amazed how well they will cope with the task as long as you are patient enough to explain them everything in details.

Be Ready For Compromises 

Toddlers do not like being told what to do and they will probably accept the new rules as a challenge. Unfortunately they usually try to oppose to your opinion so you need to be ready for certain compromises. For instance, in case the toddler refuses to clean the toys, you can at least teach him how to arrange the toys in the basket in a more interesting way. Take it slowly and you will see that toddlers will gradually accept most of the new rules that concern them.

Regardless of the cleaning rules that you apply, do not forget that your approach is very essential. You need to have a strong bond with the toddlers, otherwise you won’t succeed in teaching them of some basic habits. Be patient and tolerant and start with simple cleaning task. Make sure that you praise the toddlers for their efforts and that you communicate with them in a calm way. Educating children is certainly a difficult task but when you are determined to accept the challenge, you will be able to teach the kids how to be more organized and responsible towards their duties.