Marriage and family are a key to a society’s structure. So, I asked myself this weekend “What does the Bible say about marriage?” As I combed through the concordance, there is many references to marriage, husbands and wives. I have selected a few to share with you.
1. Binding Contract
Marriage is a covenant between a husband and a wife.
Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? – 2 Corinthians 6:14
This particular verse has meaning to me in that I wanted to marry a man with the same faith values as me, because I knew there could be disagreements about such things as going to church, reading the Bible, prayer, etc.; especially when it came to raising our children.
Faithfulness to one another is key.
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. – Hebrews 13:4
I understand this verse can be countercultural if you watch various films and television programs where partners live together before marriage, spouses cheat on one another, etc. However, I believe God is protecting the sanctity of marriages as it is a holy union between husband and wife.
3. Blessing or Curse
As wives, we can either be a blessing or a curse to our husbands.
An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is as rottenness in his bones. – Ephesians 12:4
I look back on a time when a friend shamed my husband in front of me and the kids. I remember how awful he felt. Unfortunately, we had to end that unhealthy friendship, because we understand the importance of wholesome relationships.
It’s important to respect one another and our marital positions.
Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. – Ephesians 5:22
I know this verse is not very popular in our American culture today; especially with the feminist movement. However, God is a God of order and He is above all and places the husband as head of the household.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; – Ephesians 5:25
In addition to the huge responsibility of being head of his family, a husband is given the duty to love his wife sacraficially.
Frankly, I appreciate this covering from my husband. Now, is it always easy to submit, “No.” I grew up very independent, career driven and didn’t marry until 35 years of age. So, I am learning what that looks like. As a result, I believe God has blessed our marriage of 17 years.
These verses are just a few I discovered on marriage. There are many more in the Bible. I encourage you to seek for yourself.
What principles is your marriage built on? I would love to hear about them.