I don’t know about you, but I always enjoy reading books on parenting to hone my own motherly skills. This week, I would like to share with you a Q&A with Dan Seaborn, his new book Parenting with Grace and Truth review and a giveaway. Please welcome Dan!
Meet the Author
Dan encourages individuals and families to lead Christ-centered homes. As a featured speaker at various churches and large-scale events such as Promise Keepers weekends, American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) conferences, and university assemblies, Dan has earned recognition as a powerful and passionate communicator. In addition, he has authored twelve books, has established himself as a media personality on national radio and regional television, and holds a master’s degree in Christian ministries. Dan is the founder of Winning At Home, Inc., and serves as the Director for the Marriage & Family Division of the AACC.
About the Book
Helicopter or free-range? Phone or no phone? Sleepovers or no sleepovers? Public, private, or homeschool? Tough love or grace?
Regardless of the decision you’re making, everyone (and their mother) has an opinion. But, while parenting may not come with step-by-step answers, it doesn’t mean we’re without a guide. Former pastor, author, and speaker Dan Seaborn believes Jesus is the ultimate example of a parent and that by applying His example of grace and truth, we will find hope and a future for ourselves and our children. In his upcoming book, Parenting with Grace and Truth, Dan takes parents into the Bible to help them understand Jesus’ character, explains how He models grace and truth, and teaches them how to apply Jesus’ example to their parenting.
If you ares just starting out on your journey as parents or have been parents for decades, this resource may be of interest to you.
Page 60 grabbed my attention when Dan wrote about how to handle growing pains, because I am a mom of a teen boy and teen girl. In his book, I agree with his point that our parenting skills play a key role in their lives. For instance, setting boundaries. Dan’s book is very timely in our family as we’ve been discussing important dating boundaries.
Q&A with Dan Seaborn
Parenting with Grace and Truth
- Dan, tell us a bit about your own family and why you chose to write Parenting with Grace and Truth.
Jane and I have been married for 35 years. We live in West Michigan. We have four children. Our oldest son, Alan, and his wife, Annaliese, live in West Michigan as well. Alan works with me at Winning At Home. Our son, Josh, and his wife, Amy, live in Camden, NJ where Josh is a pastor at an inner city church. They are expecting their first child in February. Our daughter, Crissy, and her husband, Jonathan, live in West Michigan. They have our two grandchildren, Jackson and Naya. Our youngest daughter, Anna, lives at home and works with the youth at our local Boys and Girls Club.
I wrote this book for parents because I encountered a time of parenting in my life that I never anticipated. Even though I worked with teens for many years I had never personally experienced the challenges of raising a child who is rebelling. In this book, I took the approach of understanding what it takes to balance grace with truth. I want to be a forgiving parenting but I don’t want to move into being an enabling parent. Balancing these two things is very difficult. I try to address that topic in this book.
- Why do you think parents today struggle with the facts (truth) and the manner in which we enforce these facts (grace)?
Our society struggles with knowing what truth really is. In fact, absolute truth seems to be almost nonexistent. As a parent, this is why it is foundational for us to base our views of truth on the Bible and apply those principles to family life. The danger is that enforcing these truths turns into legalism and it is obvious why we don’t want to be a legalistic family. That is the whole purpose of this book, to strike that balance.
- What happens if we parent with all-truth or, in reverse, all-grace?
If we parent with all truth, as stated before, we run the risk of being legalistic. Legalism focuses more on traditions than truth. Many people parent based on what their parents said and did versus what the Bible says. The ramifications will result in dysfunctional families and possibly wayward children. If you go to all grace, then your children don’t have boundaries and you run the risk of creating rebellion at the other end of the spectrum. The key with both of these is that no child fits into any perfect mold. One child might require more truth and the other might require more grace. Parenting is a balancing act.
- What is the Jesus Style of parenting?
Obviously Jesus did not parent in the traditional sense here on earth, but what he brought to the table was a new way of dealing with the law which is the truth. Previous to his arrival the scribes and Pharisees made the letter of the law most important. Jesus made the application of the law more important. Giving us hope because no one can follow the law perfectly. Jesus was the grace giver.
- What are some small steps we can take, today, to begin parenting like Jesus, especially if this is new to us?
There are many simples steps you can take. A couple obvious ones are to ask people who know you well if there are any flaws they see in the way you parent. Be open to constructive criticism. I would also encourage you to pray and ask Jesus for guidance on how to be a better parent. Part of that is admitting you need help. The way you react to these small steps probably indicates the type of parent you are. If the idea of seeking constructive criticism makes you defensive, this is a red flag. Be open to growing as a person and receive instruction from people around you.
Now it’s your turn to read Parenting with Grace and Truth as we’re giving away a FREE copy. I’d love to hear from other Moms and Dads seeking to raise their children with godly character. Simply comment below on how you parenting with grace and truth. Your name will then be placed in a drawing by January 30, 2017.
On January 31, 2017 we will randomly select a winner. The winner must supply his/her mailing address in the continental United States to us no later than February 5, 2017. One Free copy will then be shipped directly to the winner’s address provided.
Disclaimer: No compensation was received for this book review; just passing along a good read.